No matter how much you love someone, it’s impossible to save every battle and every rift from the universe alone. It’s far easier to sift through the rubble and find the stronger pieces that will weather the storm and come out fighting. In this way, our relationships are far more effective than we give them credit for. No matter how strong or weak we feel in any given moment, our hearts are where they are at all times. If we lose our hearts, we lose our connection with the one who made us happy and what we want more than anything else in this life.
Bad relationships leave a mark on our lives. They take their toll on our physical and emotional bodies and cause us a great deal of damage. Even when we manage to carve out some semblance of a happy life after the breakup, it’s a work in progress that takes a great deal of strength and resilience to navigate. It’s also one of the most common reasons we end up falling back into old patterns and habits. This is how you save yourself from a bad relationship and what you can do to prevent this year-long struggle from becoming a decade-long nightmare.
Stop making excuses for the one you love.
Stop using the silent treatment and being cold and indifferent to every single aspect of their life. Stop allowing excuses and reasons to keep you from the simple truth: you made a choice to stay. Be honest, be direct, and be honest direct to the people who matter most. Don’t hold back. If they don’t want to hear anything from you, let them know.
The people who love you most will eventually want to know the real story. They will want details. They will want to know why you chose this life, why you chose to be here, and why you chose to be now. The people who love you the most will be moved by your authenticity and your vulnerability. They will appreciate your willingness to be honest and your willingness to share your heart with whoever is willing to listen. The people who love you will be grateful for everything you do — everything you do that matters.
Stop making excuses for the one you love and take action that you never imagined you’d take. Dive into your own life and make new friendships, find a new career, and spend more time doing things that bring you joy. Go after your dreams, chase your happiness. The people who love you will find you, and the people who love you most will find the things in your life that make you happy. Celebrate your victories and allow yourself to grow beyond the confines of your current relationship. It’s never too late to find your way.
Why we cling to bad relationships and what we can do to save them.
There are a number of reasons we cling to bad relationships and the problems they can cause. This is the part where you tell your partner what you want to hear, but without necessarily grasping the full meaning of the things you want them to say. You want them to care about you, so you start to cling even tighter to their personality, actions, and outcome.
Caring for others is an impossible task when we’re doing it for ourselves. We’re so starved for love that we force our partners to take up space in our lives. We dedicate hundreds of hours a week to fixing them, patching up their wounds, and making them feel like we’re invested in their lives. But we’re never there. Even when we make efforts, we’re always pulling in two directions, and leaving them standing in the way.
You and your partner are both responsible for the good times and the bad. You both need to be on the same page when it comes to creating happiness, and that means creating a life together that fits the needs of both of you. You can’t just sacrifice your happiness for your partner, you have to make it a priority.
If you do the work, you can be open and honest with your partner about your own happiness and the things you want from your shared space. You’ll make a serious dent in your partner’s belief system, and that will set them on the path to creating the life you both want.
Communication is an important part of every relationship. It’s the little things that show everyone is working together and can help the relationship thrive. Open and honest communication helps everyone get what they want, and it gives everyone a sense of security and confidence in their relationships. You can’t create a happy relationship without being honest, and you can’t expect your partner to be happy if you’re not.
The people who love you will be the first to tell you that you often choose unhappy partnerships over your own happiness. But they’re wrong. You’re not alone, and it’s possible to find happiness with someone who sees things your way. To do this, however, you have to look past your own ego and see your partner’s perspective of the world.