Is love guaranteed? No, it is not. The relationship with the one you love will go through many stages that will test its durability.
It will reach its peaks and valleys, and you will feel the ups and downs as you always did before. It might even come to a slow halt for a while, as all couples do.
When it comes to love, everyone has a definition of what love looks like. Some call it unconditional love, others have described love as caring, others as passionate, and still others as familial.
No one is absolutely sure about the last word in love, but we are all free to choose whatever we want. So why not just accept that you have to accept the love you are given? All you have to do is open your eyes to the fact that you deserve the love you are given, and that you will find it with or without the help of another person. So without further ado, let me give you the multiple stages of love, and then let you can check out my article on how to know if someone is destined for you.
Love is just as complicated as dating. It can start off as real quick, intense, and intense, which grows more casual as time goes by. It is that complex, that beautiful, that deadly, but also the very simple level of “can we be friends?” Before you jump to a conclusion, let me explain.
Love can start off big and very high, like the love between a man and a woman. Those are the love relationships that to us look like love because to us they feel true and genuine. The feeling that we are being loved, and that no matter what anyone says, or how rude people can be to us, we still feel love for them. That is what real love feels like to us.
BIG loves can also be phases in our relationship that feel very healthy and happy. Those are the love relationships that we look forward to because we know it is the one we deserve. The fact that we keep waiting for it to happen, that we try to live our lives in a way that makes the relationship as comfortable as possible, that is what real love feels like.
DEEP loves take time to develop. When Myrtle Covey said “Love doesn’t grow on the trees like tea plants take care of themselves. It requires nourishment from the person it seeks.” It is the same in relationships. Without the nourishment of an intimate relationship, the roots cannot grow. So while it is true that you can take care of yourself, you cannot take care of anyone else. Without the connection between you and someone you love, your lives are but empty shells. Without connection, your lives are but meaningless motions in a lifeless life.
But why does the one you love need to expand your world? Why can’t it just go on living the way it is, with no changes or limitations, forever and ever? And how is that possible for anyone to do?
By the by, stop assuming that if you change your life, then the one you love will change too. That is the wrong assumption to make. Sure, they can be stuck in a rut if they can’t find a way to spice it up, but that’s not an excuse for being passive-aggressive with your partner. You can try to make them feel welcome and recognized, but that still won’t make them feel loved.
Is showing your partner that you are capable of being happy by yourself enough to feel uncomfortable maintaining a relationship with someone who is not right for you sustainable?
And what do you have to show for all of that effort? You have to be willing to look at yourself and say “I am not fine and I need to do better.” It is the only thing you can do. You cannot do it by yourself, it has to be done by someone else. You cannot do it by keeping silent, keeping pain behind you, or keeping tension on your hands and in your shoulders. You have to show your partner that you are capable of good and positive change.
Signs Your Lover is Mentally Unavailable
What do you do when you think you have found the one but they are clearly not ready for a relationship with you? We sometimes like to believe that there is a type of love that is missing, but that is just not true. When a person is ready for a relationship, they will find one. If they do not, they will not. So don’t feel bad that you are not the only one who has been disappointed in the relationship department. We are all made mistakes, and when we do find the one for us, we all learn from those mistakes.