Divorce and breakups of long-term relationships can really do a number on your confidence. This might be especially true for single moms who suddenly find themselves trying to navigate being a single woman while also raising children — a very different experience from the last time they were single. While the stigma that used to …
Once my boyfriend and I started dating, I felt like I should be content being the woman he wanted, the one he would see and love, and now that I’ve seen him in a relationship, I’m happy to describe myself as his girlfriend. I have no desire to be his girlfriend.I don’t feel like I’m …
Have you ever looked back at a failed relationship and wondered what could have been? You dissect the past relentlessly, convincing yourself that if you could just do this one thing differently, the outcome would have changed.Maybe it was the way things ended with that friend of yours. Or the way in which your ex …
A couple of years ago, I asked to move in with me.I had been renting an empty house in the mountains of New Jersey (and eventually, Maryland) for two years until I could find a place to live. In my application, I explained that I wanted to make sure I moved every few months, lest …
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We all wish that we could act like people we want to be all the time. We wish that our partners would act like our friends we all want to be all the time. We wish that our jealous and frustrated behavior wouldn’t be “meant to be”. Many people feel that if they just find …
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What Do I Need from Romantic Love?Suppose you’ve decided that romantic love is a worthwhile endeavor for you and your partner. Perhaps you both agree that it’s critical to your future prospects. Or perhaps you’re starting over and need to feel that connection that you lost as a teenager up for grabs. If all of …
Last Wednesday, a wave of protests and counter-protests erupted across America after white supremacists held a rally in Virginia.As a veteran of the US Marine Corps, I was shocked by the violence and hate that was shown by the white nationalists.I was even more shocked by the response of those who were outraged that our …
First things first: I’m an unscrupulous asshole. I went against my marriage vows. Repeatedly. The scarlet letter burned in my soul reminds me that I’m a shitty person who did something unforgivable.I have no excuse for my behavior. As an adult, we make choices. No one held a gun to my head. However, I have …
What would you do if you found out that your long-term relationship was going end? For me, I’d probably start feeling paranoid. My husband and I have been together for about eight years and I’d start to feel more and more like it’s going to end any minute now.I can’t say that I blame her. …
Men are great. They’re what make humanity go, right? They’re the ones who fish, they’re the ones who hunt animals, they’re the ones who make babies and they’re the ones who defend their family from attackers. They do those things, and so much more.But also, they’re the ones who are the most likely to tell …