Boundaries are important to any relationship. They help us to protect ourselves from painful experiences and painful conversations. They help us to communicate what we want and what we need from life. The question then becomes how to set boundaries and what to do with the discomfort you find yourself in. Many of us have …
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My depression made talking about depression incredibly difficult.She was older than me, she was in college, and she knew about depression.When I told her I was depressed, she responded, “Well, you need to move to another state.” Because of the way depression is categorized in other countries, other countries make it significantly more difficult to …
It doesn’t take much to fall for someone, but it takes a lot to build a life with them. Relationships are complicated, with a lot of moving pieces that can make it difficult to keep up with what’s really going on. When we love someone, we love them deeply, and it can be too painful …
I put on my dad’s sweater, slide into the backseat of his car, and pull the little boy with me.My partner checks his watch and lets out a long exhale.“Let’s go!” I step outside the car and hug him as he pushes his mom out the door. He doesn’t cry. He’s had a hard day. …
The relationships we share with our parents is important, but they shift and change as we both grow and age. The bond we share with our caretakers as children is entirely different from the connections we cultivate as mutual adults. Sometimes this transition happens naturally. To others, however, it comes with a little more difficulty, …
You don’t need to reveal all of your secrets to have a good relationship.Say what you mean. I don’t know about you, but saying what I mean usually manifests between either delivering my opinion straight from the hip and dead-center with the people in my life, or an awkward bunch of words skimming around the …
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I’m an expert on resentment. The people who are most familiar with feelings of resentment are not the ones you’d expect, but they are the ones most inclined to prevent it. My expertise doesn’t stem from the fact that people in my life give me more reasons to be resentful than other people. I don’t …
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When my emotions are on my side and my introverted social tank topped up, I feel my most positive and energetic. I have plenty of optimism and I’m willing and ready to spread happiness around. I want to give the best of myself, to bring light into other peoples’ days.But something I’ve come to understand …
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It’s incredibly difficult to tell if someone finds you attractive. At least, that’s what I used to think. We spend a lot of time wondering if our partner has a crush on us, and we often feel insecure about it. Don’t we need to just shut up and be happy? The truth is that no …
What does self-care in a relationship mean? Probably different things for different people, but for me, it means taking the time to 1) assess my needs and 2) take action on that assessment. When embroiled in the daily tasks of living and being in a relationship, taking the time to figure out my needs is …