I was always the loner type growing up. I didn’t have a lot of friends and when I did have friends, they were usually over-maternal, super-helpful and would probably still consider me a little crush.I thought I had possible insecure insecurities, but it wasn’t until I hit college and started having more friends, and really …
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Is it racist to disagree? Many people claim they are racist but won’t back down when challenged. They feel that if they stand up for their right to disagree they will be accused of racism. They feel that if they just keep their mouth shut, no one will listen to them and no one will …
Crazy relationships, sometimes known as toxic relationships, are a sad reality many of us face in our lives. When a relationship is plagued with erratic behavior (emotion, anger, resentment, etc.) it can cloud. lead to problems that are difficult to work through and can easily escalate into trouble. While some people may have a single …
“You know you are the most important person in someone’s life!”That’s the first line of a marketing email I received from someone I was trying to sell something to. They wanted me to sign their email into their account and then execute a contest on social media.I instantly thought of all the people I had …
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” ~Daniel CoyleI’ve heard this saying a lot, especially when it comes to relationships. I’ve written about the dangers of aggregate data before, but in the context of examining the factors that contribute to the longevity of a relationship — it can …
Most of us have heard of our divorce story. Most of us have also heard about other people’s stories. The stories are varied but often they are the same.Divorce is an incredibly difficult experience and many people have a lot of trauma and pain associated with the decision. Many people then spend many years trying …
Is your ex back with his ex? Were you hoping he would get back with you instead? Did he end your relationship because he got back with his ex while you were dating? Did he end your relationship because he got back with his ex? Both of these things can be true, but it aint …
Is your marriage getting better or worse over time? Is it getting more difficult to express your love and admiration for your partner? If your marriage is slower to give you positive feedback, you may be dealing with some underlying issues that are making it difficult for you to be excited about your relationship and …
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I was 13 when I discovered Narcissist Smith’s book ‘The System’.It changed my life.At that age, I was already a mediocre writer. Smith went above and beyond to turn me into a professional writer. Not only did he teach me how to write, but he also helped me become a better human being. Here are …
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I’ve been thinking a lot about friendships since I shared this story on my Medium feed a while ago.It touches on many topics including aging, romantic relationships, and the importance of having a connection with your own friends when you feel lonely. I was struck by how much I’ve been focusing on friendships as the …
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