There’s a really big difference between “I love you” and “Love you” — and it has nothing to do with whether or not you’re wearing a thong.The letters “love” and “love you” aren’t always just about sex. Sometimes, the more casual the conversation, the more “love” you mean it.In her book, “Six Types of Love” …
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When you are a person in a relationship, you will encounter the names of people throughout your life.When I was growing up, I heard my father’s name a lot.I heard my mother’s name a lot.When we met, I would often address her as “your mother” or “your mom.” Sometimes I’d say “your honor” instead. Most …
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I want to write about identity, racism, class, empire and more. Author’s note: This piece includes descriptions of people of color from my past who have influenced my thinking.From the time I was a young child, fantasy has been a fascination of mine.I love the trick of making familiar subjects seem exotic and intense by …
I got a text from a friend the other day. He’d gone through a lot of information and recovered some old information that he and his wife had forgotten.After going through every detail, I discovered that we were in fact in a mutual relationship but it was going unsatisfiable.While we didn’t hate each other, we …
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Have you ever worked with that guy at the office? He’s probably old enough to be your dad or at least a weird uncle. He gives you a warm smile and a giant hug, the thickness of which elicits a wide smile from you and a hearty laugh from him.I worked with this guy at …
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Recently, a Twitter personality I follow made the big announcement: they were getting married. Yes! It was time for that life-changing moment when he took the plunge and vowed to say those magic words, “Til’ death do us part.”Congratulations to him, he seems very excited to be embarking on the hopefully lifelong commitment of marriage, …
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After I turned 28, I started dating again.I had a good plan: I’d go on dates only with people who were feeling the same way about me, who I had some mutual friends with, and who I thought might be a good match for me.But as we all know, age is only a number — …
I was driving down a highway one morning a few years ago and a car came up behind me and started running lights and sounds like a chopper. I kept telling myself to keep my eyes on the road, not to worry, and I did…but I was happy to see him.We were on the phone, …
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Everyone has a different break-up style.Break-up’s can test you to your limit. You find out what really matters to you, how you cope with loss, how you process emotions.Over my life I have seen a trend emerging, present in myself, the vast majority of people I know and those who have reached out to me …
No matter how much you love someone, it’s impossible to save every battle and every rift from the universe alone. It’s far easier to sift through the rubble and find the stronger pieces that will weather the storm and come out fighting. In this way, our relationships are far more effective than we give them …
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